I know, I know...it does seem almost cruel, doesn't it? I have to laugh though...the thing is that men and women really have so few ways to learn more about each other and what makes them tick. You know? I know that part of my own self-education about men in general helped me SO MUCH in becoming the HD woman I am today. And to get that self-education I did the following things:
*Sneaked around on men's forums to read them in their natural habitat, bantering with each other...trying to find out what they say when women aren't around.
*Polled my male friends and my brother about their thoughts and feelings...asked them direct questions and then asked them to explain things I didn't understand.
*Polled my female friends about the bizarre behavior of their partners/husbands and compared notes between them, myself, and other females, trying to find the "averages" and similarities.
*Read lots of books and other materials.
*And of course...my current fiance has taught me so much more and has given me avenues to be able to use my new found knowlege.
So my thinking is that decent, married men who love their wives, such as the wonderful guys around here, probably have few ways to gain direct knowledge about women from women. There are of course 100's of books out there, but sometimes it is better to hear from an actual woman that you know (even if only on-line). Books are so easy to "dismiss" sometimes, and I was guilty of that a lot in the past. But what my friends said was always held higher in my mind and I could retain the knowledge much easier.
I want to pay-it-forward, too. That may not make sense to anyone but myself, but I have a need to "give" and one of the things in my possession to "give" is the knowledge of how to seduce a woman....this knowledge is now so much keener that I also have some knowlege about men, finally, too. That was not the case when I was younger and married.
And also, IC, I don't know if you saw on my other blog...but I am bi-sexual. And this gives me an even better, more practical knowlege of what MEN have to put up with in order to be in a relationship with a woman. I have been there and done that and I can empathize. It is so difficult! But also so rewarding, if you can get it right.
I don't mean to make you guys all hot and bothered, and I do apologize. Also, my fiance would be aghast if he knew I was "giving advice to guys about how to pull a woman's hair". LOL! But he knows me, he knows my intentions really are to just be helpful, that I am not trying to personalize any of this to an extent that it would be flirty or whatever. If he were to read through all of my posts on this forum and others where I contribute, I know he would be nothing but proud of me, as he would see the theme running through all of my posts of genuine helpfulness to people who need support.
So anyway....I will try to be back later with a few more sexy tidbits....lets turn all these sexless marriages around, and soon! Even if one person gets one little bit of help from any of this, I will be so happy. Even if I never know about it and it helps someone who reads but never writes to me or whatever...true giving is its own reward.
