Neil i wish you the best, you deserve it. not only because you put in so much effort, but you keep coming back and adjusting and trying to perfect yourself. You're an inspiration for many of us.
I cant give you any better advice than what you have from those here who love you. and they feel that way for you without having even met you.
just keep working. do what you're doing, just be ready to adjust here and there. do what makes you happy. I've been working out, something i've wanted to do for years, the hours i spend there i'm too preoccupied i cant think of my sitch. read books that you get lost in. do something with other people, take a class, night school is a wonderful place to meet people with similiar interests and the conversation opener is right there.
sorry for a minor threadjack here... a question about detaching, Sandi2 said "She notices that you have become "detached" and you have truly emotionally set her free. Will she enjoy that as well as she thought she would?" - when i was trying to detach and giving her space, and I'm thinking i was doing well, my W would pull out the heavy R talk with "We cant live like this anymore" -- what would that indicate? Our sitch was brought on by being too distance, withdrawn.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
