Just in terms of the reality check on the comments that your H made...well I guess it depends on the relationship. I have seen some relationships where women are absolutely OK with those kinds of comments, and some where they aren't. My H will call people hotties, but not be quite so direct as to comment on specific body parts, unless it's to note that they look fake... Can I just suggest that maybe instead of trying to prove your point by doing the same back to him, you instead "validate" his comments? Since you are not in the place where you can tell him something bothers you and it needs to change, instead try the 180 on this. If I were in your situation I might say something like wow they really are nice! Looks like she works out a lot, I wonder if it's Pilates...or something like that. You never know, he might subconsciously be trying to annoy you, and if you act like you don't care, he might stop. He might even compliment you if you say something like wow maybe I should run on the treadmill more would love to have that a**...Just thought it might be worth trying.
Sorry that I can't really give advice on the rest as I'm in a bit of a weird limbo myself today, and not really feeling the PMA...
Best of luck to you, thinking good thoughts...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
