I left an anniversary card for my husband last night with a note regarding the division of certain assets and my request to be reimbursed for replacement items. The card I found was almost perfect and I was able to add a few words here or there to change the present tense to past tense, etc. My note was somewhat benign (but even "benign" with me flows with love to an extent). I basically told him how I felt four years ago and how I felt today. He didn't get home until late, but after he read the card and letter and showered he came into my room, sat on the bed, and asked, "What are we doing, 'pet name'?"
We talked for a long time. We laughed some. I told him how much it hurt me that he used me for sex and he swears that's not what he meant by saying he was "horny" - and should have said he enjoyed the connection/intimacy part of it and hoped/thought I did too. He says he wants me to be happy; that he hates that I haven't been happy for so long. We both said how much we missed each other.
I'm not sure what the future holds at this point. I don't know if too much damage has been done. I don't know if I want to reconcile. I don't even know for certain what he really wants. I doubt he knows...
WHY DID IT TAKE SO LONG TO GET HIS ATTENTION?
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
