*tears* I think that type of connection does make a solid marriage, if both parties want to. You want to. She doesn't. I'm so sorry.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.