My opinion is different to that of SFs. I think that your H only wants you involved in his life when it is convenient. I think you should tell him he has to deal with this himself. He shouldn't have gone out of reach if he was anxious.to know what was going on with the sale.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Thanks for your posts. I thought like SF as I am interested in a quick sale and at least I would know what is going on.
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I think that your H only wants you involved in his life when it is convenient. I think you should tell him he has to deal with this himself. He shouldn't have gone out of reach if he was anxious.to know what was going on with the sale.
ACJ, you have a point there, but I think H would have gone back if he could. I think he is looking for a property somewhere in a downwards market. I could be wrong, but he might need to be there where he can get a good deal.
I don't want to make excuses for him but I know what his intentions were. I am sure that he does not want to tell me what he is doing and where he is, because he is worried that I would want half of a property again! He does not know anymore that I am an honest person (unlike him these days) and that he CAN trust me.
Just wanted to thank you for wishing me a good trip !
The talk with the neighbour was fine. He was kind and we even ended up discussing H and myself..(yikes, with a perfect stranger joking around about men in midlife !) Oh well....
Not sure what to think about your H...
Sometimes I think that it's hard to tell what their intentions really are....
Take care sweety, have a great weekend ! x
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
My opinion is different to that of SFs. I think that your H only wants you involved in his life when it is convenient. I think you should tell him he has to deal with this himself. He shouldn't have gone out of reach if he was anxious.to know what was going on with the sale.
Yes, but if you are indirectly involved because of finances, sometimes it is good to know from the realtor. Hearing it from H, who is off in la la land to begin with, is not always reliable or accurate.
That was my point.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Yes, but if you are indirectly involved because of finances, sometimes it is good to know from the realtor. Hearing it from H, who is off in la la land to begin with, is not always reliable or accurate.
I agree. I have decided to call the realtor. At least I will know the price and also what is going on. I would not do it otherwise. Like ACJ said H only wants me involved when it is convenient for him.
Journaling: I went to a comedy which was not bad. In the morning I did some chores around the house and then I went for a walk. It is supposed to rain tomorrow, so I wanted to make the most of the lovely day.
On the week-end there are a lot of events on, and I will surely go somewhere. I also contacted the friend I once worked with, and she might come along on one day.
True, I think it's a very wise move to contact the realtor and find out what is going on. As SF, stated, your h is off in his own little world and most likely won't tell you everything that is going on.
Enjoy your Friday!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Journaling: It was a gloomy, rainy and cold day today and it only rained once! I wanted to go out in the evening, but the event is outdoors and therefore, I decided to stay in.
I had a phone call from a lady I got to know recently, and she wants to join me on Saturday evening. It was nice of her to call me. Her H does also not want to go out often and she does not like to go out on her own. Lately, I am getting to know quite a few ladies who either separated recently or whose H is not very interested in doing things.
On Sunday there is an opening of a little park in the area and there will be a guided tour. Hopefully, the weather will be nice and warmer again.
I sent H an e-mail with some info and am awaiting his reply.
Thanks for your posts. I thought like SF as I am interested in a quick sale and at least I would know what is going on.
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I think that your H only wants you involved in his life when it is convenient. I think you should tell him he has to deal with this himself. He shouldn't have gone out of reach if he was anxious.to know what was going on with the sale.
ACJ, you have a point there, but I think H would have gone back if he could. I think he is looking for a property somewhere in a downwards market. I could be wrong, but he might need to be there where he can get a good deal.
I don't want to make excuses for him but I know what his intentions were. I am sure that he does not want to tell me what he is doing and where he is, because he is worried that I would want half of a property again! He does not know anymore that I am an honest person (unlike him these days) and that he CAN trust me.
I will have to think well about what I will do.
I remember my father in law advised me from a legal perspective and he always told me to know as much as possible, keep notes because H is not always in his right mind, is forgetful, etc.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
