Hey buddy, I haven't forgotten you. Sounds like you are doing OK.
You did everything you could do to save your marriage -- I firmly believe that. More than that, you've grown stronger.
As for you ex, CW, she's chosen a selfish and foolish path. She's not a woman of character or substance.
I think, by the way, now that everything is finalized, you should pay a visit to your former pastor and tell him exactly what happened (all details) and tell him how disppointed you are. I'd focus on the following:
1. He never reached out to you or spoke to about your wife's affair.
2. He never sat both of you down in his office to try and help.
3. He never admonished/disciplined/excommunicated your wife for commiting adultery.
4. You are concerned for the spiritual welfare of your children in a church where, apparently, it's acceptable to commit adultery.
