August - 2 months to go till a year of separation

[istherehope]

Hi JCJ,

Sorry that you're going through this right now. I honestly can't imagine how difficult it must be to be going through all of this and then have there be an EA on top of everything else.

I would try to let go of what he said about not getting your text. Maybe he just didn't feel like he was able to spend time with you, and thought if he'd responded right away, he would have to come up with an excuse. Maybe in some way he was trying not to hurt your feelings. I think all that you can do at this point is show him that this kind of thing doesn't hurt your feelings, that you are strong and that not hearing from him doesn't rock your world.

Is there any way that him coming to the house on Saturday could be a positive thing? Could this be an opportunity to demonstrate strength to him in one way or another? Are there subtle GAL things that could be placed around the house so that he can see how active and interesting you are?

I think the going swimming idea is great. Exercise always helps, even if it only helps a little bit.

I'm sorry you're feeling sad. Have you been seeing any progress recently? Is there something that makes you hopeful? Are there any experiments that you could try on Saturday to see how they work? Something different to what you normally do?

Sorry that I don't have more concrete suggestions for you, but I'm thinking good thoughts for you.

ITH