Ah, locked overnight. Here it was...my last thread. A copy of the last post - thanks so much Naej for your kindness: -
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Nothings going to happen next, a big fat nothing.
Hi Ali, this stood out to me. I said the same thing.I know because my kids remind me of it when they try calling me and I am often out.
Maybe, perhaps one part of your life journey has come to an end BUT you are still on the path and it will have lots more twists and turns to go. Strange as it may seem I often think after all the effort we put into DBing when it ends or we stop putting so much effort in, we miss it, we miss the anticipation,good or bad. We miss the inter action good or bad, because even bad gives us something to mull over to plan with etc...
First of all stop blaming yourself, yes own half by all means but nothing you did or did not do will have caused 100% of this. Put that same effort into building yourself up.
People are in our life for a reason or a season so I have read. Best friends help us grow, sometimes we outgrow each other but it does not take away from the friendship we shared.
Make plans to keep busy however bad you feel,really try to fake it til you make it! I am glad you plucked up courage to make the call to the therapist,I hope it helped. Leave your x alone or make the call. You decide. It seems cruel of him to do all those activities with you and then just fade away. Maybe it was his way of checking that you were doing ok kind of on your own,not realising how high your hopes were. When he realised that he felt a clean break was kinder. Who knows we can guess til the cows come home. My x did pretty much the same beggged me to stay in touch, came home for Sunday lunch etc, then changed his mind said he didn't want to give me false hope so no contact was best for me! ha.
Give it time, I know those dreaded words. Take care.
