K: She sure hung on for the money. She wanted that wedding so bad. No cares for his 3 kids! I'm so glad I convinced Cheryl to hold out as long as she did. But it was still all so very hard on her. Having to deal with losing him in 2 ways. Dealing with idiot OW in her face all the time and dealing with her children and watching them lose their dad. And he died on his only son's birthday.
But life goes on. With death comes finality. But so so sad.
I so belive in Karma, I just wish X and OW would get theirs NOW!!! But Karma has worked to a degree for my old boss. She always took credit, never was at work and basically had me layed off. Sooo now she is moving out of state and wanted to work for the same company and they said NOPE, good bye and good luck... sooo alittle Karma came back to her.
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
Shoe: I've certainly seen it with a number of people. When they have stiffed you and then they get "theirs" - it is difficult not to have a little self satisfied smile. Not that we wish bad for others but sometimes they ask for it.
I like Karen's idea that maybe Karma works the other way. That Karma is actually us living well. I'd like to say that that is something else that gives me that warm little glow inside. When I take stock of things and KNOW I'm doing better than him.
Ahh Karen, In their minds, the guy BELONGS to them, the ow. I know that is what maggot thought from the moment she slept with H. I was an inconvenience she had to get around. I was totally oblivious to the fact she was even in the picture. When H was living with her then decided to move back home - he was very upset - he felt like he was cheating on her. He grieved her. He was far more upset with the hurt he was causing her than ANYTHING he had done to hurt us. None of it made any sense at all - but that is where his mind was at.
I like Karen's idea that maybe Karma works the other way. That Karma is actually us living well. I'd like to say that that is something else that gives me that warm little glow inside. When I take stock of things and KNOW I'm doing better than him. Barb
Never thought about it like that. I like it!!
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
Shoe: I believe in anything that turns a negative into a positive. Its like making lemonade out of your lemons. And we all know where the best lemonade is served, now don't we?
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
Karma. Is that what you call it when the X, who is married {not quite 4 years now} to a woman he swore didn't want kids, suddenly finds himself awaiting the birth of not one but two babies? And finds this out within months of his youngest original child graduating high school? If so, then Karma is alive and well in my X's life.
I will say that I don't wish for bad things to befall him. Plus I don't think he needs my wishes since he seems fully capable of jacking his life up on his own. I truly wish him well because my children do not need to see their father fail again. ~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
