Letting God Take Control Part 16

[Dawn of Hope]

I am very headstrong and don't mean to offend my h, but I have a tendancy to just blurt out things. Not in my best interest.

I am going to just keep praying that God show me a different way to connect.

This is good. Thanks! Funny my s19 also said I need to try to communicate differently.

Glam,
Sometimes it helps to train yourself to use a default phrase when you're tempted to say something you know you shouldn't. One thing I've found helpful in the case of H complaining about something that I don't have a lot of control over is, "I have complete confidence that you will find a good solution to that." Or words to that effect. Shows respect in a supportive way, not wimpy or moody, but puts the responsibility back on his shoulders, where it belongs. If it's something I have control over, obviously that's different, but otherwise I assume that if he wants my advice/opinion, he will ask.

My H (like many men, and some women) hates being given advice he hasn't requested. He used to (when we were still going places together) ask me at times what the best route to somewhere was, because I am more familiar with most of the roads in our area since I travel around to see clients a lot. I never offered my thoughts on the route otherwise because it just irritated him, so I learned to keep my opinions to myself unless invited.

Hope that helps a little!

Peace,
Dawn