For the Guy with Kids and a WW 9

[CBK]

H4H -
Yes, you still have the longest posts - took me awhile to get caught up, that will serve me right to disappear!

I wish there was a magic wand to make this all work out the way we want. The only way I was able to detach and drop the rope was when SBTX moved out. My heart hurt every day as you know, but as time came, I finally had to realize there was nothing I could do to bring her back - if she wants back, then she has to make that decision to come back. Even though I traveled a lot, I never did things alone, I don't do alone very well. I went to a movie by myself and it was okay, I didn't die! I went to a local bar during a basketball game or something by myself - hated it, but I was okay. I still don't do alone, and you and me are a lot alike. You have to do what is right for you and your kids. My kids are both getting ready to leave for college again - will be the last time I live with them together - possible forever - wow, just hit me as I was typing this. But you know what, I will be okay. We are strong, you are exceptionally strong. You will know when it is time to drop the rope and detach. I am still hurting, I am lucky that the person with whom I am dating is very open to where I am, we talk a lot about it as it takes up my life. I crossed that line that so many people tell us not to, but I did. She is in the same sitch and we both know where we are. I only tell you this as life will go on when YOU want it too, don't let others tell you what is right or wrong - you have the moral fortitude!

My brother, keep up the faith, treat your kids like you do - you are the strong, the one that is in the ring - I put the Roosevelt quote on one of strings that eludes to this statement. You are in my thoughts always and I hope that you find that peace you are so looking for.

I will keep tabs and update my sitch every now and then. I had to go dark from this site so I could gather my thoughts - that worked for me - I am better, but my heart still aches and trust is a huge factor for me now.

Peace to you my friend.

CBK