CL, I love that poem. I'll have to write it in my day planner. Thank you for sharing that. Wise words.
Aud, you are right about doing things differently to change the dynamics. I will think about that.
I know my husband does not try to treat me in a way that sometimes makes me feel like a doormat. I think he's just unaware of how words and reactions can affect other people, and is sometimes a little self-absorbed. The frustrating thing for me is sometimes when I try to share a thought or feeling about something... and I work very hard to make it never sound like I'm blaming him in any way, or criticizing him... he can be extremely sensitive and get very defensive. This is disappointing because I'd like to share my thoughts and feelings, but when he reacts this way, I'm hesitant to do so.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
