she becomes more and more worried about whether or not she'll be able to respond to me, while I becomes more and more worried about whether or not she'll be able to respond to me
Sounds to me like this is the problem, then. How she responds to you? For her, that is a stinkin' thinkin' mind set, and if you share it... same goes for you.
It isn't up to you to turn her on... it is up to HER to turn herself on... that is why the two of you are so worried about how she's going to respond to you... jeese, talk about pressure... no wonder the two of you crumble. Who wouldn't.
I mean... let's say you set me up on a date with a friend of yours... and then you say to me... "Corri, no matter what, you have to like him and have an R with him."
Uhm... hello... any chance I had of enjoying the date or potentially liking the guy is now gone, because an expectation has been placed upon me to act and BE a certain way.
And you'd never do that to me anyway, but do you see the similarity?
When both of you make YOU responsible for her enjoyment of sex, you are pretty much shooting yourselves in the foot, and guaranteeing it's going to be a not-so-enjoyable experience for either one of you most of the time.
She really needs to explore her own sexuality and desire... find out what she likes, what she doesn't... cuz if she doesn't, your sex lives are going to be pretty ho-hum.... kwis... cuz only one of you is actually showing up to have sex...
Once she understands that she is in the driver seat of HER and her sexuality (she's not there to keep you happy and please YOU... she's there for herself)... she regains power over her body, her emotions, her feelings about/during sex. She's FREE to be her...
And you now have a woman with whom you are having sex, not a wife who is fulfilling an obligation.
Making any sense?
Have you gone thru your old threads lately B~? Maybe you should..... { edit* OOPS~ the thread isnt very long sorry. I jumped the gun}
This post is amazing.... Cinco should read this...
{ *I* am going to re~read it myself a few times} ~Ali
