I understand what you are saying.....but, when someone hits rock bottom like your W will and looks around and sees where she is at......it changes a person. I know people that wait even after a divorce is final....not sure if I could do that.....I know people that have gotten back even after marrying someone else....I don't think I could do that........anything is possible. If it were me, I wouldn't do anything drastic until the D is final. After that, I would move on, unless there were signs otherwise.
