Baggy, you said: "Again, in principle, I know this is what she wants. Even now, I have blanket permission to 'take' her when I like (within common sense). In practice, however, the results have been rather mixed."
In this paragraph, you seem to be talking about sex. But I was talking about the making out, the kisses, the groping.
In my relationship, no, he does not have the right to take me for sex, he has to still check with me, seduce me, etc. But to grope me, kiss me, get some straight up making out time...that is what he has the right, too.
To be honest with you, I hear a tiny bit of a cop-out in your response. Yes I do realize you two are the blind leading the blind...but...we are only talking about one stolen kiss to get off the ground here.
I will attribute your mini-cop-out to the exhaustion from the vacation and what you consider a step-backward-therapy session...but don't linger in that cop-out mode for long, darling. Take her by the back of the neck and drop that kiss upon her. I don't care if she does fight you on it, remind her that she is YOURS.
That is the biggest part of the dynamic that really truly works on a woman, Baggy. To know that I belong to him is such a huge turn on....
Just so you know...I was protesting these things with him at first too, and he had to go through quite a struggle to "earn" the right to take me (for a kiss, not sex) at any time. We did not just slip into this pattern right away. He had to peel away all the bad stuff that was still stuck to me from my past. So please do think about it all a bit more....and hang in there.
