ok. back to struggling. my title....reason to believe. what are my reasons to believe? does she still love me? i think so. does she like what she's seen of the new Neil? i think so. Do i have a lot to offer my W now? Yes. DOes she know this? I think so.
then why do i feel like chit and want to give up and move on with someone else?
Neil, read your four questions. "she" . . . "she" . . . "my W" . . . "she" . . .
You feel like chit because you are defining your happiness by how your wife feels about you. Understandable, but it's also not healthy. You might want to do some reading on "co-dependency" and "enmeshment" to learn more about this, but to me, it comes thru loud and clear when I read your posts.
We can only truly be happy in life when WE make OURSELVES happy, and then we decide "this woman is who I would like to share my new, happy, healthy self with" instead of looking to THEM for our happiness.
I know that sounds like a bunch of Dr. Phil pap, but it's absolutely true.
