Yes, this the IC. LOL. I didn't know that anyone would remember me. Miss IC and I are doing well. The relationship has never been stronger and she's basically wearing me out. LOL (Not that I'm complaining) No, you are not hitting on a touchy subject....I had the bone cancer in my leg, went through the chemo and a bone graft sugery after they removed a section of my femur. Later another tumor showed up on my lung and I'm dealing with that now. A second surgery coming up in about a month to remove that along with part of my lung. Taking me out of this world bit by bit ain't they? LOL! I'll be fine, but thanks for asking.
OK...I've got to disagree a bit here with DQ on the ultimatum. I agree that it has to come, but I don't agree that now is the time and here is why: Lost, I get the feeling that you are real close to where I was about a 1 1/2 years ago and judging by that and what I'm getting from your posts...I think you need to do some more work on yourself. I know that if I had presented an ultimatum to Miss IC at that time, she would have been gone. Find yourself first...find what makes Lost happy (besides sex)and do it. Go back and look up some of Corri's posts from about a year ago to get the gist of what I am saying...she put me through the wringers when I first came on here about not relying on others (your wife) to truly find happiness within yourself. I sense a lot of bitterness on your part and rightfully so BUT what is that doing to her? Would you want to jump in bed with someone that is bitter? Or would a confident, happy with himself 'Lost' be a more attractive offering to her? Make yourself that attractive, confident guy that she'll 'want' to be with instead of giving her the ultimatum and the possible chance to get away from the bitterness that seems to be present.
Are you doing the "No more Mr. Nice guy" book? AND excercises? The web-site is ok...I found a lot of the guys were on there as posers and dick measurers but once you get past those guys, there is some good stuff on those forums. DO THE EXERCISES IN THE BOOK!!!!
I think an ultimatum right now would give her an easier opportunity to walk with not all that many reasons to stay and work on the relationship. A relationship that I feel you are not quite prepared to lose.
Just my 2 cents.
BTW...DQ, The "Corri" that I mentioned above is the one you kind of remind me of in your writings and what you bring to the table. I have the utmost repect for her so....do the math
-IC
"you can't see what you can't see until you visit ftio.com"
