Oh Man, this is wild for me!

[thrillisgone]

Puppy Dog Tails - i posted my sitch under MLC topic awhile back and in the newcomers forum.

I knew in my heart there was an affair going on back in Jan 08 and it could have been going on maybe 3-4 months before that. I didn't get that confirmed until March 08 - April 08. Heard it first from a mutual friend. I confronted my W (who was already moved out) and she admitted to it. Recently...like a few weeks ago she denied it. She lies so much it is tough to figure out what is real and what is not. A couple of days ago I found out who the OM was from an irrefutable source.(They met the OM).

So all in all it has been 7- 10 months in duration. I know my W has had some doubts and can be at times torn about it. A couple of weeks ago she called me 5 times in 15 minutes and never left a message. I asked her about this and she said it was a "mistake"

She is royally mixed up. I kind of get the feeling that she is pushing for the divorce to cover up the wrongdoing of having the affair.Afterall She originally wanted me to file on her and I wouldn't. Since lots of people know about the affair, filing for divorce makes it look less wrong. She has painted herself into a corner.

Right before she walked out ( a week before) she said she didn't want a divorce or even a separation and "that we would work through this"

My wife does not know that I know who it is! As a matter of fact she apparently doesn't remember admitting to the affair. she now denies it.