For the Guy with Kids and a WW 9

[Sugar and Spice]

Sorry, but I call B.S. on that. Methinks you are lying to yourself about the reasons you want to go out with the girls. Go out with guys if you want to go out. You are still married and if/when you aren't you need time to heal alone or with male friends. You aren't looking for a realtionship, yet you are wanting to go out with women who ARE???????????????????? You will repeat the cycle you have been on. You told us once how you went from your home to relationship to relationship. Codependence was brought up. You will have problems in another relationship if you begin one too soon. You don't need SOMEONE to make you happy. You need to make yourself happy. Thus why many people told you to GAL right away for YOU. It is attractive to women to have a strong, happy man who is not dependent on THEM for their happiness. H4h, the pain you are feeling right now is what my H felt when we separated as well, but he loved me all along, never swaying from that no matter what.

H4H,

You would be wise to bookmark that post, and refer to it often. I know it's hard to see now, but she's absolutely right.

Puppy

(((H4H))) What they both said. B is a trap-door spider and somewhere inside you know it. It feels good to be wanted and it feels good to know that someone is interested, but you will the male version of GBG unless you shut it down soon my friend. She will wear you down and I can see your resolve weakening from here. I would hope that you would do the same for me. B is probably really nice, but shes a predator and you are the prey she has her eye on.

Ask yourself how this friendship will bring you closer to your goal? It won't, it will just further complicate an already complicated and jacked up situation.

I know I'm preaching, but I sooo understand where you are coming from and the temptation to feel some of that "love chemical" stuff is enticing, but it will only bite you on the a$$ in the end.