OK folks, I need some advice here. I am a computer guy. I was snooping on W via the family computer that she had at her temporary house. At our last MC, she was complaining about how hard it was for her to get the kids registered for school since she didn't have a computer to use and that I only got to working on rebuilding the family computer in the last couple of days prior to our meeting and that she has a friend of a friend that would be glad to rebuild it for her, blah blah. I told her that I was rebuilding it and she basically said that she can't trust me not to leave myself access into her computer. I told her that if she didn't trust me that she could go and buy herself her own computer and that the family computer was now mine and not hers to use. Since then, I've not done any work on the computer. She called me today to have me troubleshoot her inability to get on the internet from the house with the old slow laptop that we've been using in extremis to check the bank etc. and she asked if I had done any work on the family computer and then mentioned that she would just take the new monitor etc. I repeated to her that I'm the only one that messes with my computer and that contrary to her assertion, I did not buy that monitor for her, I bought it for our family expecting that she was going to be moving home in 6 months and that if she doesn't trust me, then she can go buy herself her own computer.
Now, I hate this crap. When I think about what led up to the hug on her birthday, it seems that behaving toward her in a friendly manner and not fighting is a good thing. Now, I'm considering telling her "Whatever, take the damned computer.", but, that seems too much like my past behavior of always apologizing for everything and doing anything to make her happy. At the same time, I also understand her reluctance to trust me in this area. So, I don't know what to do here. Maybe I should give her the computer with my blessing and tell her to go and have whomever you want rebuild it for you and tell her that I understand that she feels like she can't trust me in this area. But, I don't want to be a door mat and I don't want to be a giant offended pr*ck either.
