When you met her, you didn't have anything to lose, so you were just yourself. You and I both were. We developed these things in our R over time.
Go back to having nothing to lose. And don't do it for her. DO it for you. I've made the mistake of doing everything because my life became dependant on my W. I realized that this morning and I need to change that. Otherwise, I'll lose myself and this will be how I feel forever until she finally just files. You need to come to terms with an answer of "maybe" instead of yes or no.
You need to do the same, because we are in the same boat...kids or not.
Me: 30 W: 27 Married: 9/2007 ILUBNILWU: 1/2008 W moved out 5/24/2008 W suicide 8/25/2009