Sunday, she alluded to the fact that she thinks that I am taking the situation really hard. Like I am grasping at things like photos and momentos to hold on to her. That she knows how hard I'm taking it.
H4H, a comment on this, if you don't mind . . .
This is NOT the reaction and observation for which you are striving. What you're shooting for (and, admittedly, it's a tough dance) is something along the lines of "I know I hurt him, and I can tell he still loves me, but MAN, does he seem strong and confident . . . not like I've seen him in a long long time . . . he seems like he's going to be okay with this, and yet would take me back if I decided soon."
Trust me, the "puppy dog" look is NOT what you're going for. I think it's fine (and even preferable) to let them know at the bomb drop of your emotional devastation, and then once or twice throughout your ordeal, and then maybe once more as D day looms . . . but that's it.
We simply can't afford to indulge ourselves in that sympathy, although I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE THAT IT FEELS DAMNED GOOD.
