Piecing Friends, I believe that the dance partnership gives us an arena to work on relational issues. Dance issues are less charged, but the skills needed to cultivate a partnership are the same as in the more charged areas--intimacy, sexual.
I received a very nice email from my W, trying to build my confidence as we venture into a new dance, studio, network, and teacher. She seems invested in building the partnership.
I ventured to her class dance, (which I'll be joining next month), even though I've only had one lesson in that particular form of dance (West Coast Swing) (WCS). It was awkward for me, but I went for her, and to introduce myself to her classmates.
She was impressed that I stretched myself to go. I wonder if it was some kind of commitment test?
I use poetry to counter ruminative thinking, and keep myself grounded. This is one of my favorite lines from a recent poem I've read:
Do you ask the weather why it comes or goes?
In other words, do I have to understand every shift in my W's moods or understand every behavior?
The line in my signature speaks to enjoying the moments when my W is present, and not focus on or analyze those times when she's distant or not available.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
