She's spinning, Neil. The whole thing with the vet is a good sign that she still cares enough to possibly be jealous. Come on...you know why your W knee-jerked. You either got hit on, or she thought you did. So she responded the way she did and you KNOW why
Neil, just checking on you.
The hardest thing to do is to give our S the space to miss us. She won't, until you do.
I know that it's harder when you have children. I would try to be available for the kids, and not so much for her.
I know that it goes against everything that is instinct to you right now. Maybe you could try it as a type of 180?
Step back so she can follow.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
