I think they do the nice things out of guilt. IMO, the touch and go's aren't serious, but just a way to stay connected using the most minimum effort possible. I agree with Upside that he still has a long long way to go. You don't need to hold yourself back to wait for him to catch up because it may never happen.
Slowly, I think we'll get to the point of really letting go. [I thought I was there, but I just found out that not only did my H buy ogre my ring, I just saw a picture of her wearing my SAME EXACT watch! And what looks to be a diamond ring on her left ring finger. It's enough to make me start a new thread! (after I vomit)]
You're on the right path for yourself, peace. Keep on going.
