Please try to calm down. This has been going on for 3 years and nothing big is going to change overnight. Either way. I think he is trying to control you as his reaction to you filing, not to stop you from filing. Truth is - he doesn't know WHAT he wants. My H was nasty and became very mean to me. I asked him why. He said that he and OW wanted him to be mean to me so that I would let him go. Nice!
As for you and your son - he does not care right now about anyone but himself. I have a severely disabled son. For 3 years H barely saw him and had no problem seeing us sell our accessible home built for our son - as long as H got his money out of it. He does not care about anyone but himself!
And everyone here will try to give you their best advice. Everyone tries to help but no one knows for sure how things will turn out. And no matter how perfect you DB - there are no guarantees that this will all work out. The only thing we know is that you WILL be ok in time - you just have to keep moving forward. Even if your H does come back - it will be a new and improved M, not the one you've had up till now.
No idea what H will do next. Whether he will be nasty or whether he will be nice. My H was like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. You never knew which one was coming to the hosue. I am grateul to no longer be living this way.
My ex, like BND's H, spent EVERYTHING he could get his hands on. Including our daughter's education fund. He justified it that it was in his name. When we got our financials sorted out he was forced to pay it all back. But the damage was done - that's for sure.
Hang in there and honey - I do think you might consider going to the dr and telling about your anxiety. This is too long to be so on edge. I really feel for you and the pain you are going through.
