Where do I go from here? pt. 2

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Jack-Three-Beans---you said your wife thanked you for the space. Is there such a thing as too much space? Is it possible that I erred by giving my H too much space? His behavior has been so erratic that in the beginning, I think the kids and I gave him too much space. H had tons of time to go try out his happy fantasy life with the 21 yr. old OW, without having to face up to his responsibilities. And now, even though I know it's not the happy fantasy life he though it would be, he's run so far (metaphorically; physically he lives 15 mins. away), that I think he thinks it would be impossible to come back. Maybe he really loves the OW, but just knowing him I think it's more likely that it's just easier to stay there than to have to admit that he's not any happier.

When do I give up? He's not made any baby steps back home. With him it's all about getting it over with asap so he can move on with his new life with OW, even though his procrastination is the main reason the D has taken so long.

Thanks for any advice or 2x4's.

Too much space? When he wants to reach out and you don't contact him out of spite is too much space, otherwise, any contact forced on your part is breaking the space he wants.

If he asked for space, then I don't think you erred. Unless he is the type of person who says one thing and wants another, but that a bit passive agressive.

By the way, giving her space, yes meant she got to sleep with OM. You are going to have to get used to that idea, sorry. Figure out if you can forgive, if you aren't capable then your wasting your time here.

I let her know I was giving her space and time, that I would be around when she no longer needed it.

When do you give up?
[censored] tpaschal are you looking forward to it?
You can give up after you have done everything you are capable of doing. When you have no regrets and your children respect your decisions.