Need Advice Please!

[twinhope]

I need advice! I have been coming to this site for 2 months now and I am finally posting. I should have posted sooner but it has really helped me to keep hope. Well anyway my situation is as follows:
My H and I have been together for 14yrs. and married for almost 6. We have twin daughters that are 2. My H had stated to me in Nov07 that he felt that we were not affectionate enough with each other. I did not see what he was talking about but attempting to be more affectionate. Not that this is an exuse but I work full time on top of being a full time mom of twins. We do not have family around and I find this to be very difficult. However we tried a C in Jan and he was aweful.
My H left home for 2 months and then returned. The entire time he has said he has had no hope for our M. He left again in May and has moved into an apartment. He has not asked for a D but he is not willing to work at our M. He wants me to be okay w/ what is going on. I found DR in June and have been doing the LRT since then. I have changed myself a lot and do feel better about myself. Doing things for me and focusing on my girls! We see each other on pick ups and drop offs of the girls. At those times he always has to give me these big hugs when he sees me and when he leaves. He came to have a talk with me the 1st in 3mos. and was expressing concern that we were not connecting. He was concerned that our friends are getting too involved in our situation that it won't allow him to change. He said he missed me and cares for me a lot. On one hand it seemed that he was indicating we could fix things and then he would back off and talk about the visitation with our girls and financial talk. He thinks one of our best friends is trying to come b/w us and may be trying to move on in. However he did cry that night and said he did not want to lose me, then he quickly states he wants us to be friends. He went to leave and gave me a very long embracing hug. A hug I don't think you give a friend. He then asked if he can check in on the girls they were sleeping and that is the 1st time he has been upstairs at our house since he left. He also went in our bedroom and I had changed everything he noticed. He went to leave another long hug and then he kissed me. Really kissed me. He said he couldn't do this it wasn't right. He said that he does not feel the way he used to. I tried to not say much to him the whole night just listen and be there for support didn't beg or anything. I did ask him what he was afraid of and he did not respond. I told him all I want is a chance to try and make this work, no pressure. He wanted to do more but didn't think it was a good idea. He does not want to confuse me. He went to leave again and gave me another huge hug and told me he does not want me to hate him and that he does not want to lose me. I am at a loss don't know what to do from here! Any suggestions?

M-30
H-30
T-14 M-6
S-5/9/08
Twin D-2