Mike, while all of this has been crazy and your W has been so unpredictable, I am glad she is letting you get your stuff out and without her there.
I believe once you fully get out and are on your own things will get better and probably even with her. Not meaning reconciliation, meaning day to day co parenting will become much easier to deal with.
I know this may sound strange, but in a big way today I am very happy for you. You have been dealing with this insanity for to long and do not need to be there with her anymore.
