Well, I spoke to him about ow contact, and he denied it as I knew he would. He asked me if ow had called me, and I said no, was she supposed to. and then I said that maybe I should call her and he asked why I would, and I said to tell her that I still love my H and for her to be decent and back off. He then said it would be like something on jerry springer, and I told him that no, I am not a violent person, and that she is an intruder in our marriage, and I would just tell her to show some decency and go away.
Our S and I took the ugly stinky skanky wooden box ow made for H from its hiding place in the den, and took it to the woods, and took turns smashing it with and ax, and a sledgehammer, and then set it on fire. It took some time to burn, and it really made us both feel a little better to just get that trash out of our home. I went downstairs and got the cologne that ow gave him out of the box he put it in, and set it by the door to take it away, too, but I forgot it and he went down there on Sunday, and found it, and put it back in the box, so after while, if he hasn't taken it away, I will donate it to the thrift store.
I have felt a little bolder with bringing up stuff, and yet an awful lot sadder, too. He told me that he IS NOT going to leave me, and will still be here and our future is together. So, I am so torn up inside. Maybe he still can't let go of the supposed friendship he and ow had before it turned into an EA. I did tell him this morning, that NO CONTACT MEANS NO CONTACT!!!! And, I always write him a note to put in his lunch. Well, this morning, I wrote a longer one, and told him to feel free to call ME to talk if he wants to, and how I really want for us to get back the closeness and friendship we used to have.
I just got a call from him telling me that my MIL is calling an ambulance for my FIL who has stage 4 cancer, and is getting very weak.
