Now that our D is nearly final and that I know who the OM is in the A, I'm thinking of sending them both an E-mail and wishing them a great deal of happiness going fwd.

Bad idea or good idea? Probably doesn't really matter except that it brings the affair into the light of day and diffuses all the secrecy.

Me- 47
W- 45
Married 22 years
Together 30 years
No Kids, 1 dog, 1 Cat
2005 - 2007 W in MLT
1/08 - Crisis hits
3/08 W drops Bomb and leaves in the middle of the night. Admits to PA
4/08 W files for divorce
8/08 Divorce final