Panties and tattoos...what could possibly be next?

[TwinDad]

Jen,

Ali gave you some excellent advice and insight into your H. Let it go and show some compassion. Pretend you have two choices:

Choice #1 - Remind your H of how what he has done is wrong through your actions and words and thus hamper or even eliminate his desire to get back together.

Choice #2 - Truly let it go and put it in the past and create a loving and pressure free environment for him to come home to, thus increasing his desire to get back together

Or more simply....."Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy"

One thing I noticed in DBing is just how much "influence" we have over our relationships. Sure your H chose D, but you made the choices that made him feel like he had no choice.

The good news is that you seem tohave one of the wierdest D's I have ever seen.....a good amount of ML, a lot of contact, you are still introduced as his W. The ink is dry on the old chapter, but a new one can be written.

One of the members here has a quote in their signature from Mother Teresa "If we really want to love, We must learn how to forgive"

You will feel a lot better once you truly forgive him as well....it will be a huge boost to your self confidence.

(((((((Jen)))))))