Ex and I arrived for our pre trial to settle one last issue- his 401k which he didnt want to give any of to me..
As the both of us walked side by side towards the judge's chambers he looked up @ me w/ the saddest face ive seen in along time..i was upbeat and trying hard not to show how I really felt. I could tell he was very nervous as he couldnt even sit down , I asked several times to sit down b/c he was making me nervous by standing. He showed me how hsi clothes are big and that he has lost 20 lbs due to me?? Says I was stressing HIM out..HA! Its the other way around buddy, but his only real stress isnt the D its the$ he has to part with.. I was trying to lighten up the mood by joking around and telling him, 'So r u ready to start this all over again ?...Getting married agian to her? As I was all smiles and laughing and making the motions of pulling in the tight leash that he knows his GF has him on... He said' your loving this arent you'? As he answered by repeating NO, NO! Then tells me he was planing not not going back to work afterwards.
As the judge quickly skimmed our old agreement he got frustrated and his face surely showed it as he said "this agreement was signed back in May of '07??" AHHHH.... i was loving it as the look on ex and his attorneys face dropped....b/c his attorney started the entire discussion by saying how I entered in a legal & binding settlement that I was now changing my mind on. when it was my turn to talk I explained how I felt pressured at the time from my ex to sign & how I did not have any legal repersentation and did nto not know I was waiving my rights away.
THe judge said he was going to go into his office until all three of us came to an agreement & that if we didnt agree right then & there that he would tear up the current agreement & we would start from scracth all over again! Another Ahhhhhh moment!!! Priceless.. the look on his face.......
His attorney said 'Ok we dont want to have to start all over again w/ attorney fees and more court dates do we'? No! he said. After barking a little bit he finally agreed to give me half.
I ran out of there as fast as I could felt my emotions cacthing up w/ me. I thought God I am really divorced!! I didnt want him to see the tears starting to come..
I had a feeling he was going to call me..just as my phone rang... I didnt feel like fighting b/c I knew he was angry about the 401K so when I answered I said dont yell @ me or else Im not talking to u. He said dont yell @ me were not married anymore as he called me ms----by my maiden name. He asked if I had left the parking lot already...(I was trying to hide my teary voice)...he was also teary! But when he realized Iwas crying he stopped and said dont cry....God I hope he doesnt think I was crying b/c I was hoping he would of backed out of the D....I told him I wuld let him go I couldnt talk then..
I had a good cry when I got home then I did shopping therapy.
To those recently divorced......when does this empty feeling go away???
