JUST USED LRT-WHAT DO I DO NOW???

[Sanderika]

Thank you Barb...

Why would H stop me from filing? This is what H wants isn't it?
H is with OW for the past 3 years...all his actions and choices are for the detriment of the marriage not to nurture it.

This choice of mine is supposed to free H to move on with the OW and rid our lives of this massive burden. Why would H want to stop it now?

I am going to bump up my appt. with lawyer, will let you know when it is.

I am in Maine, this is a no fault state. Supposedly H's actions and choices will not be recognized here. Only recognized reason for filing is irreconcileable differences. It is also an equitable division state which means "what's fair is not always 50/50". I have been to a lawyer twice in the past 3 years for advice and have learned a few things, the last time was in March when H insisted on a D and kicked me out of my daily duties at our company.

I do have a well documented history of the events over the past 3 years.

I am way too emotional about this whole thing. A lawyer will deal with my H for me so I won't have to.

I wonder what or who gave H the idea to cut me off....Can't believe H decided this one on his own. I think it will be a very stupid action on H part in the eyes of the court.

Barb, you asked me how I feel about him? Sad to have to say, I love him with all my heart. I still want to save this marriage. I want to tell him so.....but won't. I just think, OMG 29.5 years, OMG....How and Why do these things happen to such good and wonderful people?

If H is trying to show me he means business what is his next move likely to be: NO CONTACT (won't get in touch w/ me to discuss it) FOLLOW THRU & CONTINUE TO W/H FUNDS (be an a$$ to us as he does) TRY TO STOP ME (by making nice and friendly when he returns tomorrow or Thurs.)

At this point if we both flex our muscles...a D is probable.

We are both pretty close to this emotionally. Mine because I want the marriage. I think his because he wants all the assets.

Thank you, Barb....