Reason to Believe on the Lake Erie Shore

[Neilh23]

hey all...

i got this email this morning from my W.... i understand parts of it...but....

While I'm thinking of this...I would like to designate some evening where I (or you) can call to discuss money, the upcoming school year and the holidays. I know the holidays portion is a bit premature, but starting a discussion about it now isn't going to hurt us.

I would also like us to discuss how we would like to approach things with the girls. Right now, I want to focus on them and helping them transition to their new "homes" for the fall. Additionally, I want us to discuss how we want to co-parent. I think the more we establish and agree on now, the easier things will be.

I know I have had my moments where I have been short lately. I am trying to find a place of coexistence with you. At times, to be painfully honest, I am uncomfortable. I know how you feel about things and I can't return the feeling. I know you know this, but I'm struggling not to send mixed messages but not being bitchy either.

While I'm being honest, I appreciate all of your nice gestures, but you don't need to do them. I know you want to get me coffees and compliment me because you're aware that these little things added up to big things. And as much as I don't want to discuss these things again, I wanted to make you aware of why I seem uncomfortable. I truly don't know how to act because I know where your gestures are coming from and why.

If we agree to ALWAYS put the girls first, we can't screw it up. I just want to focus on them and help them adjust. They have some big changes coming their way and I want us to have a plan because we are basically two families right now. Does this make sense?

the stuff about the kids makes sense, but the other stuff...

is this a backslide for me? did i overextend myself? Am i completely lost? HELP!!!