He earns the money, he can keep the money and spend it however he chooses to do so.
He doesn't owe you an explanation, he is all grown up now and doesn't need his "Mommy" telling him how to live his life.
This is not about being fair or doing the right thing.
This is his way of being an independant Man.
Any promises he has made to you don't mean diddly.
Forget about the Man you knew, this is the new and improved MLC'er doing his own thing.
They will do things that will blow your mind and you need to protect yourself financially, especially since you have a child together.
Consider this a business arrangement, nothing personal.
You are protecting your investment from a client that has gone temporarily insane.
Seperate accounts, take his name off of your Credit Cards, and remove your name from his.
I called each of my Creditors and any cards that we shared, I reported them as lost, so the accounts would be closed. The new cards arrived to my address, so he never received them.
He did however apply for new cards in his name only, but I had proof of when he left the State to protect myself.
My Husband cashed out his whole retirement, money we had saved for years. When he did finally return, we had nothing left. Only bills which he had made during his adventure in lala land.
Sanderika, I am not trying to scare you, but I was also warned very early on in the game, and I didn't catch on until alot of damage had already been done.
I thought my Husband would be different then the others. He knew how hard we had both worked and because we had children I always thought in his head he would put their needs first. That didn't happen.
Seek legal advice, write down everything the Lawyer tells you and do NOT share it with your Husband. Act as if you don't know anything, it helps if they feel as though they are still in control, they are less defensive that way.
And most importantly, Breathe, it helps, honestly.
(((((((hugs)))))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
