Are you 100% sure that they are really married and this isn't just some manipulative game the OW is playing? Have you checked to see if a Marriage license was actually filed?
The only reason I am asking is because many of these OW are so insecure about the LBS and will do just about anything to get her out of the picture.
I have personally heard so much BS spout out of the mouth of OW that it had me spinning and totally out of control. I ended up having a total breakdown. I didn't know what to believe and who was telling me the truth anymore.
They are very convincing manipulators, which is why we are all advised not to allow them to have any control in our lives. Not to talk to them or email them. They are leeches who suck the life out of a Marriage.
My Husband also moved 3000 miles away to be with her. No, they didn't get married, but it was a very heartwrenching time in my life. They eventually ended their relationship because she told my Husband that I made things too difficult.
And I was blamed for the demise of their relationship, which I of course was thrilled about.
You have to allow yourself to grieve. It takes time, and lots of tears, but you will get there. Don't try to rush the process, there are various stages you have to pass through to get to the other side.
You are suffering a terrible loss but you will come out of it. Fortunately you will have a clear conscience and will become stronger and better for it. Your Husband however will eventually see the error if his ways, in time. He will have to live with the consequences, not you.
NLT, just keep posting here, vent, yell, scream, cry, do whatever you need to do. Many people have been where you are and are here to hold your hand.
(((((((hugs)))))))
BND X
You are in my prayers.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
