Bad Co.~ I'm sorry you found yourself here but welcome. I will try to answer your questions as best I can.
My H didn't really do or say anything to make me change my mind...about 4 months after I walked, I had a big wake up call. I was in house all alone, he stopped calling/texting...i was on my own...not having anyone to come home to, eat dinner with, go out with, etc. It all hit me at once. I just plain missed "him"
I never doubted my decision. He and I lived as "roommates" for about 6 months prior to me leaving. We fought constantly. It was a nonstop battle ground in our home. He knew I was leaving, or so he said, just didn't know when.
I didn't leave for anyone else...just myself...which is bad enough, in retrospect.
I will always love my H. I think sometimes, the anger the WAS feels is more or less anger within herself/himself...IMHO. I did not leave a perfect R/M, I left one that was in need of a lot of help, but leaving the way that I did...was not the "right" thing to do...after a lot of time has past, I do realize that.
I was ready to start working on our R/M after 4 months, it's been a little over 18 months now...H is still not ready to work on things. I'm still here, waiting for him...don't know how long I will wait...but i'm still here.
We didn't have children together...just pooches...and I have full time custody of them..he's only seen them twice since we split.
hope this helps you...my thread may help you as well. not so much what is being posted now, but earlier threads. if you have questions just ask....my life is chaotic, but will try to help you out when i can!
take care christarn
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"