I was reading back on you last few post for some pointers for you. A couple of thing stood out.
Lower expectation, I think you know lower expectations leads to less disappointment. Also looking for signs the the old W is back, well if you have got this far, the old W and the old John should be gone. You've both been through a lot and yo're both different people now. I would say you have to get back to taking it one day at a time.
On the sleeping arrangements and how you intend to react tonight, if I was to react that way in my sitch that would be me going back to my old behaviours. "I gonna sleep on my own to show her...." I have found when I do things like this it normally back fires. I would suggest a nice cosy evening, (nothing over the top) if you and W the go to bed together all well and good. If you sleep separately then it's just one of those things. But I think you and your W will need to address this if it is bothering you.
John, I am finding it all to be a long and slow process and nothing can be taken for granted. I sure that's the same for you.