Hi Nit,glad you are keeping busy with work. I think when you are spending less time alone and back in the work place it will help. I think you gave yourself the answer about detaching when you said about doing something different.
I think the reality of the situation ie your divorce papers and your xh's new marriage will also help with detaching,when you take off those rose coloures specs! thats a hard one I struggled with seeing the reality from my idea of what was reality.
Good to remove all x's belongings-just put them out of sight for now. Too early to completely throw them out. Although if he hasn't taken them in over a year I guess he doesn't want them. I had my h as family also his parents and sister were my family, I had none so I understand but you will make a new life without him. YOU will.Being a whole and happy with you is the key step and not thinking your happiness depends on another person.
Not sure why the email " He wants me to loose the house & have to sell it "
WHY? Is it because you have to give him half from the proceeds? otherwise I can not understand that thinking because if he just wants you to loose the house again I ask why do you waste your tears on this man. Please don't to much store by thinking he is in MLC, it really doesn't help now.
I am glad you have the dogs mine was and still is my greatest comfort and I know he is nearing the end now but I will cherish his unconditional love for me always. Do you belong to a support group? it may be worth looking around for one, or an activity group-not a dating group. Hope you get the job,being busy really helps.
One foot in front of the other,less time alone and being proactive in putting this c*** behind you. You can do this. You are a strong person,dig deep find the person you once were. hugs
