I do not want you focusing on phases. Use them as tidbits if it helps you, but there are no absolutes with those phases.
LOTS of marriages survive these situations. Not easily. But it is done.
I haven't read your WHOLE situation. What changes have you made? What were his complaints? (please click notify again---I am horrendously busy this week....but I do want to get back to you. my brain is a sieve though, so please 'remind me' with the notify)
I know brandnewday's story and have seen a good deal of her advice. you are in good hands with her as well...
THIS IS NOT DB ADVICE, MY PERSONAL OPINION: I am glad you are going on a fact-finding mission with lawyers. Get all the information you can, and if you make any agreements, get them in writing. You do need to protect yourself...
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
