I just read your update. I can sense that this bothers you, but also that you know you need to remain patient and loving and things will probably correct themselves.
I wanted to throw some things out there in case you aren't doing them or don't have it "down" yet...here goes:
One of the reasons I am a sex machine all the time is that my man basically seduces me all day long, every day. Most of his seduction is done within my own mind, because I fantasize about him all day. But the reason I do this is because he keeps me in a hightened state of physical arousal every single day. How does he do this? Well, there are several things at play but here are some of them...
1. We make out every day, sometimes more than once. I will straddle him on the couch or he will push me up against the wall in the hall way, and we will go at each other like teenagers between classes. He will feel me up, usually over the clothes, but sometimes he will rip my shirt up. We mash our naughty bits together. He man-handles my breats. I grab, rub, touch him anywhere I can. We kiss deeply and passionately and embrace tightly. We can't go long without making out like this. As I said, at least once per day.
2. He is in beautiful physical condition. Women are visual too, and even if not to the same extent as most men are, a woman will still be happy to admire a man's physique in a lusty way, if he is looking his healthiest best.
3. He "takes" what is his. It is in his attitude that I will not be allowed to withhold myself (including my body) from him, that he will just "take" me. Now, as you know, this is a difficult attitude to adopt but...if/when you can get it down, it really DOES begin to take precidence over the housework. Therefore, all the making out and his man-handling me at any time he wants to is all due to his attitude that I "belong" to him and he can take me as he pleases. He earned this right from me over time, but it truly is his right at this point.
