Hey SMW, so for us other city girls who've never stepped in a cow pie........where's the fun part ? Do the cows make noise ? Laugh ? Cry ? or is it just fun if you're plastered ? LOL
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Hello everyone. Thanks for all who have stopped by and checked on me. I appreciate it.
There are only 3 people on this board who truly know what has transpired over the last week. I'll share what's happened with the rest now so you will know where I am in all this and thus you will understand the thread title a bit better.
Last Thursday I was out with my D and got home about 7:10pm. I got D is and got her settled and let my STBX's dogs outside. While getting D settled the phone rang and it was STBX, 30 minutes out and leaving a message asking me to feed the dogs. Well I did not get the dogs fed. This led to drama from STBX which led to STBX raising up her shirt sleeve and showing me scratches caused by her dogs. She then threatened to call the authorities and tell them that I had caused those scratches. She also informed me that I was not to take anymore of the items we had agreed that I could take, out of the house. She also informed me I needed to leave "her house" immediately..I called my L on Friday for advice and he was in court all day. I rode out the weekend OK with no drama. I talked to my L this morning and the L advised me to get all my stuff out of this house and run. He is afraid that she will trump up charges against me. When L told me this I then decided I would move this week. Just after talking with my L my STBX emails me that her dad and step mom are coming up this Friday to stay and I needed to be out the house and staying somewhere else on those two days. I responded back that If I could go ahead and move my stuff then their visit would be fine but If I could not have my stuff then they would need to make other arrangements. My STBX responded back that I could have my stuff and I needed to be out by Friday. Instead of responding to my STBX's note, I immediately left work and headed home to retrieve some stuff and begin moving. STBX was at work so it worked out good. Now fast forward to about 7pm tonight.
When I got home tonight I ask my STBX how she would like me to proceed with the move. I told her I would like to proceed with the move unencumbered and her not here. I told her this could be documented by Video if she needed and we could tape exactly what she wanted me to have and then go back and check the tape vs. what I moved to show that I had truly taken only what we had agreed upon. My STBX said no that she trusted me to take only what we agreed on. I told her I wanted to take only what I came in with and what I had truly bought and paid for..she has agreed. I will move this over the next few days. She will not be here. All this will work out great as long as she does not change her mind.
Now you know the story. It has not been pleasant but I have been OK through today. I had some feelings surface today due to the unexpected development. I am very sad. Not due to the fact that it is now over and I am moving but feel a great sense of loss of my D. I already miss her and it pains me tremendously that I will not see or hear her daily. There is a giant hole in my heart. I miss my D already.
so there it is. Now you know. I have laid it all out again. So tomorrow the move continues. I'll be out of here by Friday and into my new place. The kitchen will not be finished and the living room will be a staging area for tools and supplies so I won't be able to use it at all until the kitchen is done. I am also suffering some angst due to the fact that I may not have internet access at my new place for a few days so I won't have this place to come too.
Please say a prayer for me this week. I'll try to check in when I can.
(((((Mike))))) I'm praying for you right now. God and His awesome miracles...the Reader's Digest version ala goldeylox...My childhood was less than ideal. Parents D when I was 3, custody goes to mom. Bad choice. At age 7, I was exposed to a Christian church for the first time. Throughout middle and high school, attended Youth Group at various churches, bumming rides from friends/neighbors. It was the only thing in my eff'd up life that was healthy. In an ironic twist, I ended up dating Catholic boys in HS, started going to Mass. Married a Catholic, and a year later was baptized. Here's the good part...before I turned it over to God, and accepted JC, true happiness was impossible. If this sounds true, keep reading. I have seen women who should not be able to bear children become mothers. Sometimes the old-fashioned way, sometimes not. By the way you speak of D2, I know you believe in miracles, or at least angels. Addicts recover. Hurts are forgiven. Hellish M sitch's are healed. (Not mine, I'm still waiting for my miracle). This board is a miracle, at least, it is for me. Others with WAY more theological background could do a much better job of explaining, so please, if my simple approach has offended, I mean no offense. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR. I used to pray for my H to change, for my M to improve, for God to remove my pain. For the last 4 or 5 years, I've prayed for the strength to follow God's Will. To surrender more. If you do this, God has a funny sense of humor and He will bring it to the party. Rarely does He bring you what you were expecting. Peace.
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Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
(((((Mike))))) I'm praying for you right now. God and His awesome miracles...the Reader's Digest version ala goldeylox...My childhood was less than ideal. Parents D when I was 3, custody goes to mom. Bad choice. At age 7, I was exposed to a Christian church for the first time. Throughout middle and high school, attended Youth Group at various churches, bumming rides from friends/neighbors. It was the only thing in my eff'd up life that was healthy. In an ironic twist, I ended up dating Catholic boys in HS, started going to Mass. Married a Catholic, and a year later was baptized. Here's the good part...before I turned it over to God, and accepted JC, true happiness was impossible. If this sounds true, keep reading. I have seen women who should not be able to bear children become mothers. Sometimes the old-fashioned way, sometimes not. By the way you speak of D2, I know you believe in miracles, or at least angels. Addicts recover. Hurts are forgiven. Hellish M sitch's are healed. (Not mine, I'm still waiting for my miracle). This board is a miracle, at least, it is for me. Others with WAY more theological background could do a much better job of explaining, so please, if my simple approach has offended, I mean no offense. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR. I used to pray for my H to change, for my M to improve, for God to remove my pain. For the last 4 or 5 years, I've prayed for the strength to follow God's Will. To surrender more. If you do this, God has a funny sense of humor and He will bring it to the party. Rarely does He bring you what you were expecting. Peace.
I understand. You did not offend me. Thanks for that.
That's a rough situation to have to deal with...keep your head up and hang in there man. If I still lived in Tenn I'd drag my tools over to help you out just to forget about my sitch since you've been a great help to me in the short time I've been on this board.
I hope all goes as well as it can for you and I'll be thinking about you.
Hang in there bro!
H - 37 (me) W - 34 M - almost 8 years, Dated 6 LYBNILWY - 7/23/2008 W says nothing can save the M - 8/05/2008, 8/17/2008 W admits E attraction with OM - 8/05/2008 no kids - four cats Previous post: What to do
That's a rough situation to have to deal with...keep your head up and hang in there man. If I still lived in Tenn I'd drag my tools over to help you out just to forget about my sitch since you've been a great help to me in the short time I've been on this board.
I hope all goes as well as it can for you and I'll be thinking about you.
Mike, I was gone all weekend. Sorry for the chaos, although I think you've come to expect it by now. Glad the house is getting to be move-in ready. I lived in a house with the kitchen tore down past the plaster lath to the framing studs. Had to wash dishes in the bathroom sink. Put the fridge in the dining room and cooked with a crock pot, electric skillet, and toaster oven. Sucks, but it can be done....
OMG she is a full blown looney tune! I am so glad you are getting out of there. If it was not so far to drive, I would come help you get things done, just to spare a friend this crap!
Stay safe my friend!
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
