Sanderika: I am SO sorry that your H is showing you his true colours. He was always capable of cutting off funds. It is how he controls you. And now he knows you are thinking of filing - he thinks he might be able to stop you by cutting off money. Honey - this is all the more reason to get to the lawyer and get something in writing. YOU are entitled to half the business. And your H knows it. In all the D stuff - knowledge is power. Not about OW - that means nothing these days. Adultery doesn't count except in the first year, at least here in Canada. The courts do not care. But they do care about support and fair entitlements.
Document what he is doing and saying. Make sure your L knows all about it and get him to get a court order forcing H to pay ASAP. Stash any funds that you can because courts take time.
Now how do you feel about your lying, cheating H? Is this the man you would want? One that doesn't care about your welfare or that of your child?
I could have written everything that you have. It has all happened to me as well.
Sounds like you live near me. We have had the rainiest summer in history. Our school starts on Sept 2 as well. I go back to work in Sept too. I get the summer off - lucky me - I've been at the cottage.
Your H is trying to show you that he means business. You will need to be businesslike in future dealings with him as well. Now is when you really have to dig your heels in, get all your ducks in a row and show him you know your rights and you mean business too.
It sucks. I know all about it. But try to cast the emotion aside while you make the best deal for your future that you can.
