i did call her. if she needs a new car then fine go get one. My car is on its last legs and heck she needs to start being responsiable anyway. I just want to DB here but i dont see a way to help our sitch. I do see DBing as takeing care of yourself as well as the R. So i will see what happnes. If I donr here from her by friday I will have to re-call her. God this is turning ugley but I DO need to stop being a pushover and she needs to know that neither of us can get everything.