S, My advice still stands. Seek the advice of a good lawyer and then go from there. I will emphasize this--do not believe one word that your h promises to do for you from this day forward. He's most likely getting ready to enter the "entitlement" phase, whereby the rules of the game will change.
I strongly urge you to read the MLC resources postings and the postings of others on this board. We all have been where you are at right now and a large majority of them do turn a bit ugly as they progress along the crisis. It's nothing you did or didn't do, it's just part of the process. Just remember, when you begin to push or question him, he will perceive that as pursuit and will begin to push back. They do not like to be questioned or reminded of things they've not done.
Educate yourself on depression and what the symptoms are and the best advice--protect your financial holdings and assets as quickly as you can. If at all possible, leave him alone and try to keep the focus on you and your son. Your h has been stagnant for a while, but appears to be on the move once again.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
