Just a thought, I know you like a bit of astrology, there is an excellent book by Liz Greene - Astrology for Lovers I think its called (and also check out Jung, which is what its based on) where she talks about shadow selves - the shadow, or negative side of a sun sign (as opposed to the good stuff normally peddled!). Good place to start to examine yourself. Check out this site too, about shadow selves in R's generally.
Made me think your H reacts badly to your talk of his EA as he despises himself for that side of himself that has behaved that way and he cant stand how that makes him feel, when you hold the mirror up to him.
You said it yourself, what I didnt dare.. but yes the shadow side of an Aries can tend towards selfishness and all me me me and about fulfilling their own needs. Can be a little ruthless, self centred, cut your nose off to spite your face just to get your own way. Now that sounds bad in black and white and of course there are grey areas, but astrology as Mishka said on my thread does involve choices and we can alter our behaviours. The tagline for astrology is "know thyself" and in doing so, you learn to handle yourself and others better.
You can turn that hotheaded singlemindedness to good use! Get your H back...
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
