H deep in A & MLC, need support 4 roller coaster!

[BeingMe]

Mmmm! Your H sure is cake eating! He sounds very confident that you will be there no matter what. Or, am I wrong? Have you tried the 'being mysterious' route? I guess giving him space is about as mysterious as you can get. Do you set boundaries, or are you content with keeping the status quo as is, and not shaking things up too much?

At this point, it seems your anger is keeping you sane ... better than being depressed, IMHO, and it does help one to keep detached. Eventually, you will have to deal with the anger, whether the M is saved or not.

It's going to be interesting to see how things develop once he is in rehearsals. You should've gotten some brownie points for putting up with that in the past! I believe in supporting our spouses in things that they are passionate about, but it should be reciprocal ... in your case, it sounds very one-sided.

Anyway, you are doing well ... I get the impression from your writing, that you have found a middle ground that you can live with, for now. You sound calm, and non-combative (despite your anger at him). It's also good that you are going to IC regularly, as it is for your H too.

So, other than maybe kicking out of your bed, or some other type of boundary-pushing activity, I'm not sure what else you can do, except to continue as you are now.

Take care.