W dropped the kids off, gave them each HUGE hugs (she squeezed oldest son so hard that an imprint of her cameo necklace was on his forehead). The hug she gave me wasn't as big, but at least I got a kiss with it. I told her to have fun and to be careful (generic enough to either apply to camping mishaps or to the asshat she was with). The kids and I will see her again on Friday, when she comes to get them for the weekend.
As you said, I'm not you and my W is not your W, but like you said, there are similarities. W's OM is young, immature, self-destructive, selfish, and periodically falls off the wagon to go AWOL. I can see how my W would want to "fix" him as a project. Plus, his money, his employer (OM's company has fishing trips, dinners, etc.), and her only having the kids part time give her access to the lifestyle she thinks she wants.
She's says she enjoys living on the lake and the "lake lifestyle," but it's summer now and they've been outside a lot. I've seen the furnished closet they call their apartment. Once our kids are over at her place when they can't go outside, it'll be fun to see how well OM handles stir-crazy children.
Ah well...in the meantime, I'll follow your advice and keep strong.
Thanks again for the words and support.
Me: 47 Kids: 2 boys, 14 & 8 Bomb: 5/5/08 Married: 16 years, together 20 Divorce final 8/11/10 I remarried, to an amazing woman: 3/17/12... "Once in awhile, in an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale"
